Perfection is a killer. Trying to be perfect stops any sort of progress. Ayurveda views a person through their dosha. The perfectionism demon rears its ugly head differently for each dosha.
The perfectionist demon, in a vata person, is waiting to have that perfect inspiration before starting a new project or adventure. They have to have that rush, but soon the rush is over and they are still dreaming of the perfect plan.
The perfectionist demon, in a pitta person, has a plan, has it all organized, moving forward, things are getting done but the specifics are not alined properly. The pitta person is easily frustrated. Everything must be in its proper place using the right tools. The project is moving forward but it isn’t brilliantly perfect enough.
The perfectionist demon, in a kapha person, requires that the project be beautiful. They slowly put together the plan, but may need many planners and revisions before moving forward. The next phase of the plan requires the accumulation of the materials to put the plan in place. A shopping spree! Each step of the project requires slow evaluation and sometimes a nap or a netflix binge and definitely food before moving on.
It is rare to see a person display only a single dosha, most of us have dual doshic tendencies so you may see yourself in one or more of these descriptions.
per·fect adjective ˈpərfikt/
- 1. having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.
“strove to be the perfect husband or wife”
- 2. absolute; complete (used for emphasis).
“a perfect stranger”
synonyms: absolute, complete, total, real, out-and-out, thorough, thoroughgoing,
downright, utter, sheer, unmitigated, unqualified, veritable, in every respect;
“a perfect idiot”
per·fect verb pərˈfekt/
2. make (something) completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible.
“busy perfecting bowling technique”
synonyms: improve, better, polish (up), hone, refine, put the finishing/final touches to, brush up, fine-tune
Let’s face it according to the dictionary the definition of perfection means its over, dead, kaput. No wonder perfection stops us in our tracks.
Perfection is an illusion. Life is a journey, an evolution of ideas and actions. Only the patterns of nature and time are perfect.
So now that we have established our definitions, here’s how to kill off the perfectionist demon.
- Brew some Vata reducing tea (include ginger, cinnamon, cardamom and ajwan seed)
- Get a piece of paper, pencil and a timer
- Move away from distractions (phone, kids, half way done art projects)
- Repeat this mantra at least 3 times, “I am focused, I am disciplined.”
- Set the timer for at least 15 minutes.
- Write idea, and steps to implement.
- Do some yin yoga.
- Repeat the next day starting with implementation or another step just stay away from revising the idea itself.
- Brew some Pitta reducing tea (include fennel, coriander, chamomile and some sort of mint)
- Collect your project and a timer.
- Take a deep breath
- Repeat this mantra at least 3 times, “Perfection is an illusion.”
- Set the timer for 1.5 hours max.
- You already know how to work on that project, just stay contained, work steadily.
- Resist the temptation “Just one more [ _____ ].”
- Repeat another mantra. “This is good enough.”
- Take a deep breath, take a walk.
- Brew some Kapha reducing tea (include ginger and fenugreek seed)
- Pull out your plan and your timer.
- Do some exercise, maybe some jumping jacks or jogging in place.
- Repeat this mantra at least 3 times, “I am ready. I have everything I need.”
- Set your timer for 45 minutes
- Challenge yourself to complete the next three steps within the 45 minutes.
- Go make something pretty. Get Up! Get Out! Do something else!
- Repeat the process as often as you can.
What to do… we like tea for all doshas. Give us tea as a sword to slay our inner demons!